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ruger414
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| 08/22/2010 12:31 AM |
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| I was just wondering... How do you get popular, and how do you impress popular people? Obviously I have never been popular and just wanted to know. |
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Lucky Albatross
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| 08/22/2010 1:05 AM |
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Popularity is overrated.  Just be yourself and you'll be suprised how many respond to that! |
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One step at time,
I trust these feet of mine,
To carry me on to where I belong.
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Lucky Albatross
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| 08/22/2010 1:07 AM |
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Cliche? Yes. Does it work? Also, yes.  |
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One step at time,
I trust these feet of mine,
To carry me on to where I belong.
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JoJo
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| 08/22/2010 7:08 AM |
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serious, I was never in the "popular" crowd, but now that I'm out of highschool, everyone wants to be my friend (mostly  ) Lucky's right, be yourself, the popular kids aren't all that, cuz most of the time, they're only friends with each other on certian conditions. for instance, b4 highschool i was friends with this girl from church, and we ended up going to the same highshool. her friends were popular-ish, and in my class, and term 1, we were all good friends. term 2, they wouldn't speak to me and my good friend decided to ditch me too. I still donno why, but I guess it was because I wasn't "cool" enough. I wouldn't sleep around, smoke, do drugs etc... and it was hard at the time and long story short, I transferred schools and had a much better group of friends real friends are better than popular friends in the end.
I think it also comes with learning to accept yourself, that others want to be your friend, idk any other ideas? |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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ruger414
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| 08/22/2010 12:05 PM |
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| Ok. And another thing... When does popularity start? Cause I look at little kids and they are all friend and in highschool noone will even k to people outside their circle of friends... Any thoughts? |
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Adelynn
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| 08/22/2010 4:02 PM |
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It starts as soon as there is a group of people together. When a little girl of family friends started 1st grade, she came home telling her parents how it was her turn to sit next to the popular girl of the grade (the principle's daughter).
But yeah, like everyone else says, it's so much better to have real friends who really do care about what you think than to be part of a crowd of people who will only like you if you all do the same things together (sheep, anyone?). |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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Lucky Albatross
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| 08/23/2010 1:49 AM |
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I agree with what Jo said. If you can accept yourself and know who you are, people respond (often positively).
To answer the second question OneGuy, it has to do with identity. Sparing you the college level psycho-babble, popularity has to do with the need to find your own identity. Some kids become the social butterflies, others the jocks, theater kids and so on. They identify with the group rather than with their own values, judgements and ideas. We give more importance to certain "identities" and hence comes the popularity ladder.
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One step at time,
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clare
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| 08/23/2010 3:45 PM |
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I was always popular in school and church...and I didn't ask to be, I didn't try to be, and I didn't like it!!!! Girls would want to be my friend just so they could say they were. I humored them, if they were traveling thru on church stuff and wanted to write me I would write them a few times then just never answer them back. I was trying to get people to not want to be my friend!! I was just being myself!
Being popular is no fun if you don't have real friends that will stick with you thru everything and even be hard on you at times. We are at a new church and I'm out of school and now I spend my life blending in, and I love it! |
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nateynate
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| 08/24/2010 5:08 PM |
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| screw popularity its a bunch of overated crap really and most of the time the "popular" ones are the ones who do all the drinking and drug crap so its actually good no to be popular wat i like to do though is get a couple of friends in like each clique so its not awkward for me to hang out with and "group" of people it works for me |
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" Wake up oh my soul
wake up and praise the Lord
rise up you sleepy soul
rise up and praise the Lord"
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artyprincess
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| 08/26/2010 5:26 AM |
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| Most often it's the popular ones who are mean and talk behind everyone's back. It sounds so high-school-musical, but it's TRUE. Trust me, popularity isn't worth that much. I went through the 'no-body-wants-to-be-my-friend-I'm-so-unpopular' stage - and I'm homeschooled! Now, I am completely comfortable being me. If you don't like me, I really don't care. You're the one that's missing out because of being so narrow-minded. Don't spend your life trying to make yourself popular. Be friendly, be generous, be encouraging, be funny, be random.... be YOU. |
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Clockwork*
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| 08/26/2010 6:56 PM |
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| I'll enlighten you on something... if you are not popular now, don't even consider trying to be popular in the future. I was popular all my life, and contrary to what most people said it was ok. I mean I had my true friends, and then I had everyone who pretended to like me and tried to use me. Being popular is ok and in some cases even fun if you have been popular a while. If you are new to it, it will be like your first dose of heroine or ecstacy. And of course you know how that goes, you over-indulge after the first taste. Like I said popularity in itself is not bad, and it is easily obtained. But it is not recommended if you have issues obtaining it yourself, or if you have to try at all to be popular. If it is not natural do not, DO NOT attempt to be popular. You will only distract yourself and look like a fool. I was popular of late becuase I play football and am smart. I am sure Clare had various reasons why she was popular. I say this because being popular does not mean the "hottest OMGSH! charming" guy in the school. If you make a lot of friends while playing a sport, then you know people. That ups your popularity right there. Now don't get me wrong, I can't speak for Clare about why she was popular. I am sure she is beautiful and smart, but I (obviously) can only speak for my reputation and from past experiences. I want to ask some questions. What gratification would you get, and to what extent from becoming popular? How do you personally define popularity? If you become popular at your or the highest standard, what would be your first course of action? Answer these questions carefully, because the urge to become popular has often determined the outcome of many people's lives. Yes it has become that serious in various cases. People's minds get so focused on becoming what they are not that things commonly held with gargantuan importance soon become negligible. I know this is a rather extensive of a reply, but too many times (even I myself) people become entrapped in the webs of social status and "popularity", whatever that word even means today. Last thing I want to note is Maslow's Hierarchy. I don't know if know about it, but I won't insult your intelligence. Obviously things that are required for basic survival are Physiological and Safety needs. Those two are (or should be) at the top of the pyramid. Then you have the need for belonging... this is that love and affection feeling. This is where you need to interact with humans or you become crazy =). Not just interact, but be ensured they are willing and want to interact with you aswell! Then after that, the big one ESTEEM... Yep this category is a need for a healthy mind to exist. Unfortunately many people have low esteem and are easily influenced to do things that will "make them popular" or "make people like them". If you ever hear someone say to you, "I know how you can make people see you as the most popular guy in the school" don't listen to them. They are full of BS (excuse the phrase). It is impossible to make anyone do anything willingly.. end of story. You simply cannot control a persons mind, even if you trick people into thinking you are popular it won't last long at all. Esteem is something that has to be built upon a sturdy foundation. You can't just wake up one day and say "World! Yes you World! I am the Esteem man! I can take you on!". Well you can say this but you won't get very far. You need to build a foundation. If you want me to elaborate on that I can. Again I don't want to insult your intelligence. I do not know what level of esteem you possess, but I do think that if you have a strong urge to become popular you must sit back and consider everything that could be the driving force of this. I mean everything, do not deny. Denial is a whole other topic of which I will NOT address, because I also want to leave room for others to answer aswell =). Anyway I know some statements might be a little vague, if you need me to elaborate on anything tell me. There is 1 last part of the Hierarchy, it is Self-Actualizing. That simply has to do with attaining yor max potential. Anyway! hope this helped a little bud. Above all, be yourself as everyone has said. There is nothing you can do better than to be the great person God has created you to be! |
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Clockwork*
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| 08/26/2010 8:00 PM |
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| Also I've been told Maslow is very huministic. I wouldn't advise you or anyway to get too involved in his work. |
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"They told me 'Son, you're special... You were born to do great things.' Well you know what...? They were right..." - Jack *Bioschock 1*
I sit in this chair in awe of how you have this effect on me. It's as if I went to a pharmicist and they handed me you. When I smell you I become intoxicated by your narcotic aroma. I am addicted to you as if you were some specialized nicotine. I swallow your gaze like ecstasy. Please sedate me and do what you wish; never cease to be my personal prescribed heroin...
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Crazy Person
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| 09/15/2010 12:35 AM |
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| You dont need to be popular! |
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You can't stay happy forever, can you?
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