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artist_for_christ
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| 01/14/2012 10:20 PM |
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My mom and dad were talking a few days ago with my sister and I about boys and dating. Mom and dad both agreed that any boy interested in us would have to fill out "the application for dating my daughter" (if you haven't seen this, you have to google it. too funny). Then today, my mom stumbled upon a facebook group called DADD which stands for Dads Against Daughters Dating. 
Just out of curiosity, I was wondering if there are any special rules your parents have about dating (or courting)?
In my family, if a guy is interested in us, they have to go to dad and talk with him, asking for his permission to date us. |
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~Lauren~
But whatever gain I had, I counted as loss for the sake of Christ. Indeed, I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have suffered the loss of all things and count them as rubbish, in order that I may gain Christ
Philippians 3:7-8 |
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Rose
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| 01/15/2012 11:24 AM |
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That's really funny (: In my family, before we go on even a very casual date with a guy we must have him over for dinner with my family. At first I was upset when my parents made this rule, but now I know that parents are able to read young people really well (and can oftentimes tell if a guy is a goody or a jerk in disguise). Although it can initially be annoying or embarrassing, it can save A LOT of problems down the road.
The one exception in my family is prom; I didn't have to have the guys over for dinner since they were both nice Christian guys and we were only going as friends. |
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God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of POWER, of LOVE, and of SELF-DISCIPLINE. So do not be afraid to testify about our LORD.
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clare
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| 01/17/2012 12:56 AM |
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| The dude had to ask my dad, and my parents have quite a few other rules that I feel are the couples decision not the parents. I always knew the guy had to ask dad permission to ask one of us girls to marry him so when Grant proposed and I said yes, I found out later dad expected me to come talk to him about it first before I accepted. I never knew about that rule and he said it had always been the rule. Well at least I knew Grant had dads permission! |
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IDLibrarian
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| 02/02/2012 3:48 AM |
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Well, I'm courting right now. Warren had to ask my dad first, and we can't go anywhere in a car together. This makes things a little awkward since we both live over ten miles out of town, and I hate driving so I don't have my license yet (despite being nearly 18... yeah, I know, I'm weird!  ) Fortunately, Warren loves me, and I know my parents do too. So even if it the car rule makes things hard sometimes, I don't mind too much.  |
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ilovemyhubby521
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| 02/09/2012 12:15 PM |
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| Haha, we had that rule, too, IDLibrarian! And I didn't have my license either (still don't at 19! People think I'm totally crazy) and lived out in the country- seven miles outside of civilization. Haha it caused some awkwardness. Like never being able to go out somewhere together.. but I know my parents' reasons for that rule. And we got past it. . David had to get my Dad's permission to court also, and even though we were courting with the outcome being marriage, he had to wait for my Dad's approval on the appropriate timing for when we could get engaged, too. So sometimes it was hard because felt ready "NOW", but my Dad (who was having an increadibly hard time letting go of me) kept saying "It's not the right timing, It's not the right timing."... Haha, Ahh, learning patients! We were also not allowed to be alone. Like, we could be in one room while my parents or sisters were in another, as long as they were within hearing/seeing distance. So yeah. That kind of stuff. |
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clare
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| 02/10/2012 6:22 PM |
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| The whole being alone in the car rule my parent very quickly realized doesn't always work. And none of us really let that one be in forced. my husband lived 1,500 miles away so when I visited him of course we were alone a lot. When he visited he stayed with my family and my parents were very understanding about we really needed time"alone" with each other without siblings crawling all over him! |
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artist_for_christ
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| 02/10/2012 6:56 PM |
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| my parents in reality don't have many rules except that the guy needs to come and talk to my dad about dating either of us (dad says he's our agent). Other then that, my parents trust us to make the right choices. We've seen friends make wrong choices and we don't want to go through the consequences that go along with those wrong choices. Nicole and I have high standards based on what we have seen in our parents and other married/engaged/dating couples in our church. So that combined with the fact that the guy has to talk to dad scares away most of the guys that aren't right for us. |
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~Lauren~
But whatever gain I had, I counted as loss for the sake of Christ. Indeed, I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have suffered the loss of all things and count them as rubbish, in order that I may gain Christ
Philippians 3:7-8 |
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JoJo
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| 02/11/2012 1:21 AM |
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| I sometimes think my dad is just waiting til I have a boyfriend so he can be a big cheese ball about it... lol. my dad is so random sometimes |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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artyprincess
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| 02/23/2012 2:39 AM |
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wow.... I haven't been on here in agessss...
my parents have basically said, wait until you're 18 (I'm 17 now) before you even think about a relationship, and even then it will be mainly doing stuff with each other's family/friends or big group gatherings not one on one dates. I have my own little list of boundaries.... but they aren't needed yet! |
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A&L
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| 02/25/2012 7:02 AM |
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| My parents let me make my own decisions about dating (I decided that I wouldn't at all, when I was 13) but I'm sure if I did want to they would have put up the same guidelines and rules talked about here. I think my own rules for myself are stricter than theirs would have been though! |
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