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esh
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| 03/02/2009 8:05 PM |
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| We've been married for 20 years and have been through our share of problems. We have 3 children - 13, 11, and 9. I owned a business that was a financial failure, so we have a financial stress on top of the normal stresses of marriage and family. Neither of us has been unfaithful. He is really angry, and I thought it was somewhat unfounded until I read For Women Only. He has been saying everything that was in the book, but not so nicely. I'm not a terrible wife, but I see that I have made some really big mistakes that I just had no idea I was making. He's so angry now, he can't even hear me apologize. What do I do now? I can't be married to someone who feels such anger towards me. I'm not even sure I can get over some of the things he has said and done in his anger (and he may feel the same as well). I have no doubt he loves me, but he sure has doubts about my respect and appreciation for him. I need some advice. |
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Marganit
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| 03/03/2009 1:18 AM |
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If you haven't already, please start PRAYING that God will soften his heart towards you. Then truly HUMBLE yourself before your husband. I'm sensing that you're very hurt yourself by him, but if you also hurt him and expect him to forgive you and try again, you'll have to totally forgive him (whether he does or not) and be willing to try again.
People know when an apology is has "strings" attached, so please do come before him very humbly, apologize, BEG for his forgiveness, but don't expect an immediate "I forgive you." I think you would want no less for your hurts. (I know I would.)
I hope that helps. |
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Debbie
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| 03/14/2009 2:19 PM |
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| I can relate to what you are going through! My husband of 20 years just moved out of the house because he is not sure if he still wants to be married or not. He has been gone for almost 3 months now and a friend gave me the audio books FWO and FMO. I have listened to mine and was amazed at how many of the things I did that I never realized men found disrespectful and the appearance chapter was a total eyeopener for me. I don't know how many times he tried to tell me this and I took it as him thinking that I was way over weight and disqusting to look at. WOW what an wake up call this book was for me. I haven't given him the FMO book yet cause truthfully I dont know if he will read it yet or not. I have decided to put alot of this into action now and hope that he will see all the little (or Big) changes that I am making in my life to better myself for me and him and will chose to come home and work on our marriage. I agree with Marganit I believe that we have to trully humble ourselves and apolgize to them for all the hurt and hope that they will forgive us for it and want to try again. I belive that if one person trully makes an honest effort to change for the better than the other person will follow in time. Good luck to you and may God bless you!! |
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