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Gertie
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| 02/27/2010 11:42 PM |
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| My husband and I have been together for 10 years. It has mostly been a battlefield. Recently, he said to me I was disrespectful after telling me he was leaving. I love my husband very much so I went search for advice as I have no male family members. I purchased your audio book and listened to the whole thing. I realize now that my husband has been trying to tell me this for years and always forgives my hostile and disrespectful nature. I want to change this behavior and treat him in a manner which will make him and myself happy. He is very angry with me. I have offered to leave and apologized, explaining my mistake, showing that I understand his perspective, and offering what restitution I have to give and asked for forgiveness. I understand he is disbelief. He has not asked me to leave. However, he will not let me near him at all and I don't know how to begin to show him my respect when I am completely shut out of his life. I am not religious per se and feel like a fraud trying to just pray on the matter. I want to respect his space but I also want to show him in small ways how much I love him. I am confused and not sure how to mend my marriage. Any advice would help even if to not feel so alone. |
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JoeMS
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| 03/02/2010 8:54 PM |
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Have you tried listening to the audio book together or at least sections of it? This was very helpful for us! You can tell him you are trying to understand him and guys better and that you want to know if what Shaunti says is true for him. You could admit to him that you've been clueless about some of the information. You did not realize that some of the things you were doing and saying were so hurtful and harmful to the relationship.
If he has some similar issues from his childhood, he'll have work to do, but hopefully he'll grow to see you as an ally.
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